So, i have come across many Nigerian men who would prefer to go home and marry a wife they haven't seen in 3 years and sometimes 12 years than marrying a girl in the same city or neighborhood as them. This is now a common practice for both men and women living outside Nigeria and even the ones who live in the country.
The men say "the women here are bad, they can't cook, they are not submissive, they are rude, they know too much about the laws, they can't be controlled" and the women say "the men are not serious, they just want someone to sleep with and go home to pick a wife, they are too controlling" e.t.c. When these men/women go home and bring a wife, they always end up getting the opposite of what they want. I believe being a good person is a personal choice and through God's Grace. Being a good wife/husband is also a personal choice and God's help. It has nothing to do with upbringing (Some people can have the right upbringing and still live a horrible life) and never will.
I decided to ask my own friends who are married (went back to Nigeria to get a wife) why they prefer going home. Some of the reasons i got to know about are;
1. They would prefer someone they knew in university days because they can relate better
2. The mentality of Nigeria women back home is better than the ones born and raised here ( I asked about the ones who only came to get a university degree,whether 1st or 2nd degree).........
3. They would prefer to teach the woman
4. She is more submissive
Please do add more to my list if you have any reason.......
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