Stella Dimoko Korkus': THE CULT CALLED OYIBO WIVES ASSOCIATION

Stella Dimoko Korkus': THE CULT CALLED OYIBO WIVES ASSOCIATION: This woman has opened a can of worms.....

Why do men abroad prefer to go back home to pick a wife

                   So, i have come across many Nigerian men who would prefer to go home and marry a wife they haven't seen in 3 years and sometimes 12 years than marrying a girl in the same city or neighborhood as them. This is now a common practice for both men and women living outside Nigeria and even the ones who live in the country.
                  The men say "the women here are bad, they can't cook, they are not submissive, they are rude, they know too much about the laws, they can't be controlled" and the women say "the men are not serious, they just want someone to sleep with and go home to pick a wife, they are too controlling" e.t.c. When these men/women go home and bring a wife, they always end up getting the opposite of what they want. I believe being a good person is a personal choice and through God's Grace. Being a good wife/husband is also a personal choice and God's help. It has nothing to do with upbringing (Some people can have the right upbringing and still live a horrible life) and never will.
                 I decided to ask my own friends who are married (went back to Nigeria to get a wife) why they prefer going home. Some of the reasons i got to know about are;
1. They would prefer someone they knew in university days because they can relate better
2. The mentality of Nigeria women back home is better than the ones born and raised here ( I asked about the ones who only came to get a university degree,whether 1st or 2nd degree).........
3. They would prefer to teach the woman
4. She is more submissive
Please do add more to my list if you have any reason.......

Mirroring Oneself

                        I have heard so many ladies talk about how they caused the break-up or ruined their relationship and so on. Sisters please i have met women who did worse than you did and the guy still married them. And those who started after marriage but the man stayed in the marriage.

Yes we all do something that is unforgivable every time but God still forgives. How can a man want a loyal, honest and God-fearing woman when he is not even close to what he asked for (same applies to the women)?. That saying "You are who you attract" is something to really think about.

                        Before i go further i would want to ask a few questions, why do women always talk about finance when describing a man? Isn't it enough that he is kind-hearted and loving? Yes no one wants to suffer but have you ever thought about the fact your father didn't marry your mother when he was flamboyant? Love should be unconditional i believe. 

I would like more input on this matter under the comment section.

Thank you.