A Healthy Relationship

                  The desire of any man/woman is to find a good partner they will settle down with and have a happy life. But having the right partner is just not enough. One must ensure that the relationship with that partner is a healthy one. You can find the right partner and still have a miserable marriage. A healthy relationship engenders a Successful Marriage. It is one which is whole, grows and one that brings Glory to God.

ACCEPTANCE: 
A healthy relationship is one in which both people involved accepts each other. You need to know that you are loved and accepted by your man/lady. Once a person claims he loves you, he/she must be able to accept you the way you are no matter how others feel about you. One of the ways to know if you are accepted is what the person says when you are around him/her, if he/she is always comparing you with people and always wishing you were like somebody else and doesn't appreciate you for who you are, you must know that you are not accepted by that person. So acceptance is one of the keys to check the health of your relationship.

Trust: Trust is also another basic key you must watch out for. Trust is a firm belief in the reliability, truth or ability of someone. A relationship without trust is like a car without fuel, you can stay in it as long as you want, but it still won't go anywhere. There are many people who don't trust their partner; you'll hear them say things like "I can never trust a man/lady, all men are the same" etc. The man/lady need to trust each other to the extent that nothing/nobody can feed you lies about your partner. It’s not enough to know your fiance / fiancee loves you, you must believe he/she loves you. There are many people who know their partner love them but they don't really believe it. They say things like "do you love me?, are you sure?, hope you are not cheating on me etc. And also, don't try to demand trust, earn it or build it or show it.

SECURITY: A healthy relationship is one that gives security to the man/lady. Security is, knowing that you are provided for and protected, your interest and views are protected. And you wanna know you won't be abandoned one day. Security in any relationship is very important. You must feel secured in your relationship. If you are always scared that you may be jilted or abandoned, it shows there is no security and lack of trust in the relationship. No matter how far apart you are, you must believe you are secured and once you doubt your security, it shows something is wrong in that relationship and you must try to work things out.

PURPOSE: Purpose is one of the key things that keep a relationship going and healthy, purpose knows that you have a reason for living. A reason to live together. Many relationship out there lack purpose. Most youth these days just enter into a relationship for the fun of it. Nothing is keeping them busy, no important reason for their being in relationship except that they just feel like being in a relationship with someone. And once the purpose of a thing is not known, abuse is inevitable. In fact it is very important you ask from any guy that proposes to you his purpose, reasons he has for wanting  to marry you and so on. Adam had a purpose before he starts a relationship with eve. I will advise you that if you are yet to discover your purpose, don't think of starting a relationship. Starting a relationship without discovering your purpose is like boarding a bus without knowing your destination. So take time to ask yourselves why are we together? What is our reason for being in love? And try to work towards fulfilling the purpose.

Commitment: Commitment is very pivotal to any relationship. The two persons in relationship must be committed to the relationship and pay the price in other to get the prize of a successful marriage. Commitment is a dedication, a promise or an obligation you give to your relationship. It takes a commitment to keep a relationship going. Be committed financially, be committed in prayers and be committed to individual development. Note: the commitment must not be one sided, it must be balanced. As a lady, don't think the man should be the only one committed. Both of you must be committed.

IDENTITY: A healthy relationship is one in which both persons involved have a sense of identity. Identity is Knowing that you are individually significant and special. It is very important that your man/lady know that you are both unique and special and he/she must be willing to acknowledge that fact and appreciate your uniqueness. Everybody want to be treated with honor and dignity. So you must watch out for the Identity he/she placed on you. Is he/she proud to introduce you to his/her friends, family and colleagues? If NO, know that something is wrong and try to work on it.

Finally, put God in the driver seat of your relationship because ANYTHING under HIS control will NEVER be out of control!

(Mr. TEA)